Love means different things to different people. We all want it and need it. We love that warm feeling inside love gives us.
When love is present in our lives we feel happy, content and positive -nothing seems impossible. When it’s missing we feel lost and vulnerable. But does it have to be so black and white? Is it possible to find your sweet spot and stay there? How do we stay more balanced and less affected when our circumstances change?
The answer is : YES, it is possible! Below there are a few ideas on how.
1. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
As we go through life we often don’t have time to get to know ourselves. Our dreams, fears and desires often come to the surface only in situations where we are being tested by life. We become so much wiser later in life. Once we know ourselves, it’s much easier to understand our partner and the dynamics of our relationships.
One way to become happier in life is to love and be kind to yourself. Don’t forget who you really are and give up your interests, hobbies and friends. If you do, your dreams will come back and haunt you, reminding you of what is important.
2. WORK ON YOURSELF & STAY ATTRACTIVE
The most important relationship you can build in your life is the one you have with yourself. There is unlimited love, power and strength inside you. You just need to learn how to access it. It’s completely achievable. Once you tap into your inner power you can build the most joyful, happy and balanced connection with your partner – one where you are both independently fulfilled and happy. You will enjoy contributing to each other’s lives instead of over relying on each other. That’s when magic happens.
3. COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY
Sometimes, when you have been together for a while you might feel like things are becoming a bit stale and you start drifting apart. It’s natural and most people feel like this. The excitement that was present at the early stage of your relationship is gone and reality kicks in. This could make you feel disappointed, discouraged or sad. The warm, fuzzy feeling of being in love is gone. That’s when most couples come to terms with the fact it will take some work. Open and honest communication is what can prevent painful arguments. Nobody is a mind reader.
It’s your job to express your feelings, fears and expectations. It’s not their job to guess them, despite the ‘’mystical connection’’ that you believe the two of you might have. So explain how your partner’s behaviour makes you feel. Communicate how you want things to change. Be calm, patient and positive. Don’t judge or criticise.
4. KEEP THINGS FRESH & FUN
This is so important guys! Find time to do fun things with and without your partner. Never neglect this part! Make time to go out as a couple. Dress nicely and make an effort. Go to new places, make friends, get a new hobby or improve on your current one. You need to stay fresh and attractive for yourself and your partner. The results will be visible in your confidence levels and in your wellbeing. Your work results will improve. Your partner will find you more attractive and not take you for granted.
And they might be more inclined to follow the same path : -)
5. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET = CHANGE YOUR LIFE
We humans associate certain experiences and situations with positive and negative memories from our past. Our thoughts and emotions form patterns of our behaviour. The longer we live the more established these patterns become. Our thinking creates our mood and our mood creates our mindset. This is why it’s so important to think positively as a negative mindset can hold us back from living a happy life!
So, in order to form new positive thoughts patterns try thinking differently about your partner and your relationship. Learn about common causes of issues between couples. Learn how relationships function and the differences between women and men. Instead of complaining or demanding an instant improvement from your partner, include some logic and a bit of a scientific approach to your life. This will open your heart to experience more love.
6. DON’T BE SHY & ASK FOR HELP
Life can be hard at times. Nobody is immune to work stress, lack of sleep or the pressure you are under when your child is ill. You are not a superhero and neither is your partner. The sooner you accept it the better for you. Don’t sit and complain about how tough you’ve got it. Think about practical solutions. Can you drop off the kids to your mum’s and finish your work? Book a nanny and go out? Learn to meditate to sleep better or perhaps read something informative or funny to make your work commute less stressful? These minor adjustments can make a huge difference to the quality of your everyday life.