Most of us are aware of how much motherhood can change lives.

Apart from all the obvious changes, lack of time and taking responsibility for your family wellbeing can be very overwhelming. Today mums face lack of support, parenting dilemmas, relationships issues and a long list of kids activities.  There is many decisions to make. The ability to make smart decisions or a lack of it, will quietly create our everyday reality before we realise it. Once that reality is created, there is nobody to blame for it – that’s the bad news. The good news is that you can always change the way you live your life.

STEP ONE → AWARENESS

Rising above your current circumstances and taking smart decisions can really make you thrive in life. Many of us are so busy we don’t get a chance to get to know ourselves enough, so when you have a peaceful ten minutes in the company of your thoughts – ask yourself:

  • Are you happy?
  • What aspects of your life are you happy with?
  • What aspects would you like to change and why?
  • Are you prepared to create new routines and work hard to archive it?

We often talk about what we really want and what we wish was different, but not many of us take the next step. What would you give for a happy, fulfilling career ? or a more balanced life? As nice as this all sounds, these things don’t come without a price tag. And those who value it, will work for it!

STEP TWO  → DECISION

Having worked in corporate firms for many years, I’ve learned that standing out from the crowd and asking inconvenient questions as a woman, was rarely welcomed. However, it did helped me gain respect and recognition among my peers and managers. This came down to one skill – often known as : ABILITY TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. This is something that we mums often struggle with.

 

As little girls, we are so told to put the needs of others first. So we get married, have children and look after everyone except ourselves… Weirdly expecting that looking after others will make us happy. Most of us realise pretty quickly that this attitude is not serving us in the long term and we need to start prioritising our needs to be truly happy. When the support around you is limited, self care is even more important. Once you invest in it, it will put you back on track in finding your inner balance, increase your confidence and self-esteem. Sharing your dreams and hopes with others will make you less lonely and better understood.

STEP THREE  →  ACTION

Neglecting our needs can lead to more serious issues down the line, such as burnout, health problems, resentment toward your partner, loneliness or depression. We moms need to relearn the art of self-care and self-love. We need to start small from doing what makes us happy, like dancing barefoot or going out with the girls. Women are known to have a ‘’softer touch’’ and often ‘’think with our heart’’ and this can be a very powerful tool especially once we learn the art of self- care. Breaking down our life goals into smaller steps is the only way to get us closer to our desired life

STEP FOUR  →  PERSISTENCE

We all deserve a lifestyle that will complement our needs in the best possible way. But to get there we have to shift our thinking. We need to create new healthy habits and form beliefs that will support us in reaching our goals. Knowing what you want from life is one thing, dedicating enough time to make it happen is another. It’s usually by learning what makes us unhappy that we discover what we really want in life. And that’s fine – as long as in the end we understand our needs and articulate them to others.  Brushing them under the carpet and taking no action is not going to change anything. Following a path of self-love and self-care – will.

We mums need to be a little more determined when fulfilling our dreams. If we don’t, they will remain just that – our dreams!